What makes you a normal mom?I didn’t meet the expectation of motherhood she had in mind. I was a very young mother at the time, and I did not have as many mom-years under my belt as she did. Sadly, I began to wonder if there was anything wrong with me.
What was a normal mom like?For years I tried to emulate normal moms. I became a team-mom, the bring-cupcakes-to-school every week mom, the classroom-mom, the PTA mom, the field-trip mom; yet I ran into similar gymnastics-class scenarios in every setting. I just didn’t fit in with the normal moms. While in conversation with a close child-less friend many years later, she shared her first impressions of me, and why she didn’t see me as a normal mom when we first met. These are the three things she pointed out:
- Moms hang out in packs.
- Moms are constantly planning play dates for their children.
- Moms talk about their kids incessantly.
I’m an IntrovertI have a tendency to keep to myself, pack a book everywhere I go, and I often avoid social gatherings. This gave this friend the impression, that I was antisocial, unfriendly, and even rude. By definition, an antisocial person is “unwilling or unable to associate in a normal or friendly way with other people”. Antisocial people avoid gatherings due to their unwillingness or fear, to interact with others. This does not describe me. I don’t choose to avoid gatherings due to my inability to communicate, or because I’m simply being unfriendly. I’m an introvert. I am self-reflective and very self-aware. I don’t mean this to sound like an insecurity, but rather a strength. I am comfortable with myself, not concerned with the popular opinion, will not discuss celebrities, the weather or the latest fads. I avoid small talk, but I will talk for hours about topics close to my heart. I’d rather develop friendships in which I can communicate on a deeper level, that could ever be achieved by small talk.
I Am THAT MomI am the mom that sits quietly with a book, or with the headphones on. I am the mom that doesn’t hang out with a pack of other moms. I am the mom that won’t plan play dates. I am the mom that doesn’t constantly talk about her kids. I am the mom others see as antisocial and awkward. I am the mom that doesn’t always fit the mom mold.
What type of mom are you?No mater the type, what you and I need to remember is that God created each one of us individually. What we see as strange is exactly what He envisioned.