This evening, as I brushed my teeth, my 10 year old daughter walked in the restroom and said she had something to ask me. As I continued to brush my teeth I mumbled “ask it”, but she wanted to wait until I was done, because it was “important”.
A little intrigued I rushed through the process and as I was finishing up, she said this important question was “about her body”.
I took a deep breath and closed my eyes. Within seconds I remembered all “the body talks” I’ve had with her three older sisters. It couldn’t possibly be time to have this talk yet could it? This morning, she attended the Jr. High service at church for the first time, and that was too much growing up for me to bear.
When my oldest daughter was just about her age and attending public school, she was ushered into a classroom and shown a video without my permission. I had to deal with the questions of a very traumatized and teary eyed little girl when she got home, and I refused to have my girls go through that again. As I shared this story with friends and family in the past, I was asked what the “big deal” was. So what if she watched a sex education video at school? Now she has all the facts right?
One of the reasons we chose to homeschool was so that we would be able to instill biblical values in our kids lives. We want the word of God to guide every decision they make today and in the future. No sex education video can ever do that. I’ve had “the talk” with 3 of my girls so far. Each time I’ve had the opportunity to point them to scripture and to show them they are fearfully and wonderfully made by a Creator who planned their existence with extreme care
“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.” – Psalm 39:14
When I finally caught my breath, said a quick prayer and accepted that this conversation was going to take place, she got really close to me and pointed at her ears. She said “am I doing a good job at cleaning my ears? on TV moms are always saying to clean your ears”. I looked closely, gave her a nod and said “yes”. Satisfied she skipped out of the room and I was relieved.
Funny how a little question can bring on so much anxiety. Her body question had nothing to do with what ran though my mind, however it reminded me that I can rely on God’s word for anything and everything. There is wisdom, love and comfort in His every word.
“But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy.” – James 3:17
I do plan on talking to her in the very near future, specially since she will be interacting with older kids both at church and basketball camp this summer. It’s very important to us to answer all her questions, and for her to hear it first from mom and dad, instead of one of her friends.
Have you had “the talk” with your kids yet? Are there any resources you’ve used and that you would recommend?