Grace is the word, that you heard it is love undeserving.
As a list-making-control-freak, one of my biggest goals each day is to check everything off my to-do list.There was a time when I had a checklist for every task. We’re talking step-by-step instructions for bed making, dish washing, and even list making. Yup, at one point I had a list of instructions for making lists [hangs head in shame]. As expected, this need to control every aspect of everyone’s life at every moment in time resulted in ridiculous expectations not just when it came to daily homemaking tasks, but also in our homeschool.
I’m embarrassed to admit how many ‘daily routines’ and ‘schedules’ I came up with that first year. By the time the kids figured out what was going on, I had devised a way of “improving” the system and I was throwing yet another routine their way.
The Harsh Reality
The worst part about this obsessive compulsive behavior is that I am often
upset angry at myself, for not completing every task. This is an ongoing struggle. The unrealistic expectations of what I should, and could be doing often take over and kill my joy.
Does this happen to you?
This is due to a serious lack grace. The Bible defines grace as favor and acceptance.
It’s easy to exercise grace towards those you love, family, friends, neighbors, etc. However, it’s not as easy when it comes to yourself. We are our worst critics. As women, we are quick to find faults in ourselves. We criticize our appearance, our habits, our diets, our homes. The list goes on and on.
Grace is the Word
I mess up on a daily basis; ask my family. Yet, despite the lack of imperfection in my day-to-day actions, they are still here! Most importantly, Christ is still with me. He knows just how badly I mess up, and he has not left me; Hebrews 13:5 assures me of this truth.
Homeschooling adds yet another set of expectations to an already replete agenda.
As a rehabilitating-list-making-control-freak, I am here to assure you that laughter, good conversation, and fellowship are just as essential as math, science, and history; and that taking a day off from homeschooling is perfectly acceptable. Your children will learn that self-care, and grace for yourself, are just as important as extending grace to one another.
What are some unrealistic expectations you’ve set for yourself lately?
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